I have been working on my values again, really honing in, and doing some work just to figure out what is really going to light me up.
Here I am looking at Adventure, Contentment and Making a Difference and wondering where I can take these foundational, non negotiables (not really I word). I want to start making my life decisions based on these. Obviously I can’t make everything an adventure, or continuously feel like I am making a difference, but it’s high time I put them as a priority. Just looking at the words on the screen I see adventure and making a difference as obviously very action orientated, then I would like to assume that contentment naturally follows.
With that in mind, I wonder where my next adventure will take me, and how I can start making more of a difference. What jumps to mind first is in the past I have perhaps bounced ideas back and forward with others and this hasn’t worked, maybe because I was seeking approval in some way, afraid of my own ability to make clear decisions. I think there is a lot to be said for keeping quiet, holding back on telling everyone and the world about your plans. Yes, I have talked in the past about an accountability partner being important, but you have to pick this person very carefully. Maybe if you do want someone as a sounding board, pick a person that doesn’t know your entire history who can act as your non judgemental mentor, but other than that, maybe your best laid plans should be closely guarded.
I have also been listening to Mel Robbin’s audio book The 5 Second rule, and like every book you’ll agree and disagree with lots of it. However I am definitely taking some great tools away. Mel’s description of the rule is as follows.
If you have an impulse to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill the idea.
In your head you must count, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and then move into action, sounds simple but she has a ton of evidence and stories describing just how effective it can be. You can start simple as well, perhaps you are a snooze button addict, so maybe try something a little different tomorrow. As soon as the alarm goes off, say 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and get your ass up, it really is a great call to action that can build momentum, and then who knows what big changes you can eventually make. We all know that feeling of, yeah I really should do such and such, then we think about it too long, our brain goes into overdrive and all the excuses come up, but what if you literally don’t give your brain the chance. Certainly an interesting concept. One more point before I leave you, this is obviously to be used in circumstances that you know you should be acting a certain way, you know that uncomfortable calling that you all to often put off for “another day” that’s your trigger to use it. This isn’t about a snap decision to clear off and get married, haha.
I am lucky enough to be a morning person, so snooze isn’t my call to action, but the next time an opportunity comes up, I’m on it, promise!